Many of us have gone through the emotional time of splitting up with our boyfriend but spend our time and effort trying to cope with the relationship break up.  In many cases though, there is no reason why you can not devote this time to use and develop a strategy that will be the best way to get your boyfriend back.

How you act after the relationship break up will determine if there is a possibility that you can get back with your ex boyfriend.

Advice on getting your boyfriend back – the first steps.

•    Break off contact with your ex boyfriend.  
Give your ex boyfriend space and time to miss you.  If you constantly call, text, e-mail or leave messages on social network sites you will smother him and drive him further away making it harder to get back with him.  
It is natural to miss your ex boyfriend and have feelings of longing to be back with him again.  If you give him space he will likely be thinking of you too and in a positive light as he remembers good times you had together.  If you repeatedly contact your ex boyfriend saying how much you miss him or even begging him to come back he will only have negative feelings about you.

•    Be confident and live your life
Do not stop socialising and doing the things that you enjoy.  Use this time away from your boyfriend to make new friends or catch up with old ones you haven't seen in a while.  Take care to always look your best; you want people to see that you are coping with the break up of the relationship.

•    Play it cool if you do meet your ex boyfriend
While you have made every effort to break off contact with your ex boyfriend, there may be times when you unavoidably meet him.  If this does happen play it cool!  Be friendly and polite but do not rush up to him and tell him how much you are missing him or beg him to come back.  Your ex boyfriend needs to see how well you are able to cope with the relationship break up.  This show of confidence is likely to inspire him to make the first move in getting back together.

Fixing a broken relationship will not happen overnight.  The time apart from your boyfriend allows him to reflect on why he loved you in the first place and gives him time to miss you.  The first step to get your boyfriend back is to work with human nature and allow him to realise he misses you.